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Carl Jung was right…

Carl Jung was right. He is not only known for developing his Shadow-work and the Personality Archetypes, but also for his brilliant contribution to the phenomenon: Collective Consciousness. Collective consciousness is about the consciousness of families, tribes and (sub)-groups. One of the characteristics is that one individual’s will-power and personality is influenced subconsciously. You think it’s you who thinks or says such and such, but you really might be aligned or connected to a bigger picture. That bigger picture could include also the connection to experienced traumas by previous generations, which are transferable as is shown also in clinical psychology science and Systemic Work: traumas can be stored in the limbic brain for 3-7 generations.  


“I am connected to you, but I‘ve never met you…” When the presence of absence is felt… A Holocaust history as shown in a Constellation perspective

“I am connected to you, but I‘ve never met you…”  When the  presence of absence is felt…  A Holocaust history as shown in a Family Constellation perspective.  www.CarlaVanWalsum.com   Boca Raton, Florida. Family Constellations When, because of war or other disasters, many family members are killed or perished, surviving members can often ‘feel’ their absence even though they have never met. Family Constellations show that identification can occur with one or more dead family members quite unexpectedly. We are all part of a so called ‘Family-Soul’; an intelligence which encompasses the evolution and nature of the family over the generations. Those who belong to a particular Family Soul are the children, parents and their siblings, grandparents, great grandparents and so on, including anyone who has been excluded from this family system (i.e. rejected members who were called ’bad’, former spouses, stillborn and aborted children).When we bring them back into the system Read More


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If the urge to control OTHERS would be recognized as an expression of FEARful thinking, than parents could be much more happy if they communicate their wishes differently. We can never REALLY expect anybody to do something they dont want to comply with, other then using coercion/ threat which is violent.
Being punished or rewarded for every step you take takes away the natural joy and behavior of ‘just doing it’
Requesting respectfully based on compassion and awareness of each others needs creates easy compliance. The model of Crystal Clear Communication is a great tool to realize that. Not to please each other to get something out of it, but to please because it is great to do something for someone else.
The joy of the mitsvah/a good deed. Just a higher level of conscious living.