Blending two families together after death or divorce is a challenging and beautiful journey.
Honoring each other’s needs, respect for each diversity, acknowledging everyone involved, that is a path of growth towards harmony. The opportunity for new love and more love can become a gift! However, the biological parents are THE parents. Most often the “step” parent oversteps boundaries to his/her “new child/ren” in taking a role that is not honoring the original place of the biological-missing- parent. Conflicts are the result and a lot of damage is done. If there’s a sense of competition by the new step-parent with the biological-missing- parent , or some disrespect towards him/her prevails, the unseen loyalty between biological parent and child will be surfacing.
It is a pity that many beautiful opportunities failed. Some support and helpful tools can turn a complicated situation into a harmonious family.
Respect and honor each others’ boundaries
Speak respectful about the “other” parent
Don’t force step-parent roles. Children have the deepest loyalty to their biological parents.